When we discuss “life goals,” we are not talking about your plans for tomorrow.
WE ARE TALKING ABOUT STRATEGY
Life requires strategies to succeed. When we see a man dressed in black and approaching rapidly in the dim of night, we react as we should. Our hearts begin to race; our bodies begin to ready us for the survival instinct we all possess; we think of strategies to get out of that situation. Well, that is very similar to a life strategy. We have to constantly adapt to the changing world around us, and often our personal life affairs get drowned out in the sea of our own emotions. Emotions govern every strategy we make, and that is scientifically and psychologically-proven. Strategies allow us to find the right path for our given choices, and we have to live by a governing rule: find a strategy for your life, or falter into oblivion. We will discuss this in this blog post.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF CHOICES
Did you know that there is an actual psychology behind making choices? This article taught me a lot about the structure of Choice Theory, or the idea that all of our sought-after actions in life are found on a subconscious level. Choice Theory states that we all have subconscious instincts that drive us to make a reasonable choice. As in our example above, you can face the person approaching you and risk getting hurt, or you can turn around and find a crowded area where you will not be in danger. For the record, if this ever does happen to you, pull out your phone and quietly dial 9-1-1 and brief them as you walk in the opposing direction. Do not ever try to face off a man in a dark suit. Turn around, dial 9-1-1, and find a crowded place. Wait, hold on…
WAS THAT CHOICE PSYCHOLOGY?
Yes! Yes, that was choice psychology at work. We find that our choices are governed by reason only half of the time. When you see a hurdle in front of you, you have two options: jump up and prevent stumbling, kicking your heel as you do so, or you keep running and, well…you run into the wall. I have seen many people run into walls throughout their lives. This often occurs in the form of a physical wall, as former President Trump ran into a glass door when trying to stop the election from continuing (Google that, it is a funny image). If not a physical wall, remember to put your mind that even though a barrier may be something less dangerous than a wall being run at at 20 miles per hour, but we need to visualize our barriers in order to truly defeat them.
DON’T CRASH INTO THE WALL…
Rather, find a way around it. So many people hurt themselves in the process of making good or bad choices. If you were to think of your life’s biggest problem, you may have no actual visualization of it in your mind. One great strategy to always win this battle is to visualize an actual wall. Take your problem, rank its importance on a scale of 1 through 10 (use this to determine what to accomplish first), and then rank its difficulty from 1 to 10. The higher the number, the higher the wall. The higher the importance, the longer the wall will be. You will not always be able to find a susceptible way around a wall, but would you rather run headfirst into it? Try to climb over it? What if it is too tall? What if this wall is too big to pass or to jump over? We cannot keep running head-first into it, so we have to plan a secondary course of action. I call this a “Life Contingency Plan.”
A LIFE CONTINGENCY PLAN
A Life Contingency Plan is a way of preparing for the worst. Say, the wall is not broken nor is it too short to hurdle over, nor is it too weak to knock down. You must then decide if it is even worth passing the wall to begin with. Often times, we may need to call in a helicopter to airlift us over it, or for further the advance of supportive artillery fire. When we think about our life strategies, many people forget to include others in their game plan. Remember, when you are in the thrust of life, you need backup. This backup can come in the form of friends, family, or support groups (I highly suggest that if you do not have a team backing you up, you can come to us and we will give you what you need). It means knowing you have backup. But will that backup be enough to devise a way around a wall? Think about a military planner. What does this person do first?
A SIMPLE ANSWER AFTER ALL
Well, they strategize a plan to either a) get over the wall and onto the other side safely, or 2) to blow the wall up. Other contingency plans can, indeed, include walking around the edge of the wall, but for sake of argument let us assume you have backup. Once this occurs, you can logically pull out a pen and paper and begin to strategize a tactic for your barrier. How will you get around? What resources do you need to get around it? Do you need to blow it up or airlift over it? Life is all about making educated and informed decisions, and if you have spent days or weeks trying to knock down a wall yourself, you are facing a problem: you are focusing all of your energy on passing the wall, when in reality you could have called someone; you could have sought backup; you could have found a secret tunnel hidden beneath the wall. In other words, know thy enemy.
TO CONCLUDE THE CONCLUSION
Though it is not always easy to strategize life, the best thing you can truly do is pull out a piece of paper and begin to write about this wall. We are linking below to an article on Circle 5 Books, which has a similar topic in place. It is about Life Plans and how to successfully write your own Life Business Plan. This helps you direly assess how to get over a wall, how to get around it, and how to plan for future barriers. We need to all recognize that, at the end of the day, the wall does not exist. It is a visualization, but that does not mean it cannot be conquered or defeated. When facing a barrier, call for backup and design a Life Business Plan!