I get it. You are mad at the world; you are angry with God…but you deserve more credit!
YES, YOU DESERVE MORE
I am not here to tell you about “what you can do,” as we all know “what we can do.” We know that if we did Yoga three days a week, we would be centered; we know that if we quit our job, we could start our own business; we know that if we took more breaths daily, we would not need our anti-anxiety medications. Well, that “what we know” game is a dangerous one to play. In fact, it borders on “Jumanji.” There is the pragmatism of life experiences: we do learn that over time, we can situate ourselves in a routine that does work actually work. Just remember that even when blessed, given a great family, and working a great job, there is a dark secret that lurks in the darkness…
THE DARKNESS THAT LURKS
That darkness I speak of is not giving ourselves enough credit. You ready? Well, let’s go! In a world where 81 percent of people require secondary research just to figure out what pair of jeans to wear, we must give ourselves credit. That word: “credit…” It has lost meaning, has it not? The species we abide by has lost its power, and as political tensions around the world tighten, we all need to learn to give ourselves a break. My New Year’s Resolution in 2023 was to be less hard on myself, as an example. We all find ways to nuance and discredit our decisions and emotions. Well, that is bad, in my opinion, because I still believe with absolutely no doubt that humankind is “good!”
In fact, it is great!
There is a quote I would like to provide you from a Harvard study: “People who habitually accept their emotional experiences were more likely to report greater psychological health six months later.” Well, the point of this is something we call “anxiety appraisal,” where we seem to audit our emotions based on reward versus failure. If you fail more times than you succeed (which, mind you, is the cornerstone of success in and of itself!), you will begin to isolate yourself within a silent bubble, waiting to explode like C4. But if you accept the situation as it is, chances are you will start to trust yourself again. Remember, this is where you are and this is what you have. That simple.
I AVOIDED THE MIRROR
To apply myself into this situation (yes, the Life Coach had to Coach himself a while back), I was very hard on myself when I was growing up. In youth, more often than not, we are in the process of developing self-esteem. In fact, many of us never regain that self-esteem back from our childhood selves. I had high self-esteem as a child, but somewhere around the age of fourteen, I lost that capability. I was anxious, stressed, and sad about not fitting in. But there was a silver lining, and this is where this post has been leading you to: one day, I stopped looking in the mirror.
AND WHEN I LOOKED…
Of course, I maintained hygiene rituals, shaved, showered, and so on, but I stopped looking at myself. I thought that was a good thing at first; I felt less inclined to see a skinny and dorky child! However, one day I did look in the mirror, and I realized I was no longer in a state of deteriorated self-image. Rather, I was blindly covering my identity; I was blanketing myself in warm, fuzzy hopes, and that is not what the human race commands. Self-esteem is important, my friend, and you need to begin to credit yourself more. Pat yourself on the back after a hard day.
GIVE YOURSELF SOME CREDIT!
Well, I hate to say it, but you are beautiful; you are perfect. In fact, I do not know you, but I do know that I love you. If we began to love one-another, even in the unitedness of distance and obscurity, we would be a much less dangerous species. I also think we all need to take a step back and try an exercise: begin to wake up every morning, put a sticky note on your mirror, and write those exact words. Yes, stick a note on your mirror and write: “I am perfect; I am beautiful; I am centered; I am balanced.” If you can begin to motivate yourself before you so much as grab yourself a cup of coffee, your day may be more destined to self-awareness.
TO CONCLUDE THE CONCLUSION
You can always book a session to see how my Personal Development program works, but I do want to warrant that this is a blog that is meant to give you some guidance even in my absence. I feel I could help, but again, I cannot help everyone. No one can. But if you see what I see and if you feel what I feel, you will begin to loosen the strings around that neck of yours, and you will begin to recognize that you are fine as-is. Again, “this is who we are, this is what we have.” Live every day with that mentality, and you may (or may not) find solace and peace once more.
And if you need help, I am a click away.